Sometimes, what we think are not important to seek God’s face are the most important especially regarding the issue of a life partner and how to conduct your relationship. From what I gathered over this holiday period, most people tend to think the issue of marriage is been over spiritualised and as long as boy & girl sense chemistry, they might as well start walking the aisle… Really what does God have to do with it? I understand some people tend to go overboard with the spiritual aspect but there is indeed a thin line. When you walk Him out of your plan, you are only working by yourself.
I was out of the country for almost a month and was happy to hang out with friends I had not seen for ages and meet new ones. I recall a particular evening when I had a couple of friends over at mine to catch up on old times. I have come to realise that whenever singles gather, be it in space or here on earth, you cannot but get into what I like to call ‘relationship talks’ and this little gathering of mine was no exception. I laugh all over again remembering the look of worry on my aunt’s face as she raced into the living room to see if everything was ok as vibrant singles were shouting on top of their lungs to get their opinion across to questions like “If sex is not allowed, how far can we go?” “Why can’t we kiss for more than a second?” “There are two guys in my life now; whom do I choose?” “I’m with a girl who I’d love to marry but our genotypes might be a barrier. Should I go or stay?” “How do I know if he/she is the right one? Oh my days! When my opinion was asked, I simply answered with a question – What is God saying?
Comments like “please we are talking reality here.” “How can you determine when God speaks and your flesh?” “What if he/she is out of God’s will?” “Please do not spiritualise this thing!” Came flying through the air. Whilst even trying to prove his point on why you don’t necessarily have to seek God’s face, one of them said to me that the bible says “…and they will become one flesh” and not one spirit.” Indulge me whilst I take you back to the creation story and how the concept of marriage originated. We must be careful not to take scriptures out of context.
1. It was God who said, “It is not good for man to be alone.” Adam had no idea he needed a wife. It was God’s decision.
2. God put Adam to sleep and formed Eve out of his ribs. He knew the sort of woman Adam needed to fulfil his purpose.
3. God put Eve in Adam’s path. The bible records that “He had taken her out of the man and He brought her to the man.” Emphasis on brought! (NIV)
4. God made it clear on how a man and his wife should relate to one another. “…A man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” Some might say, well that is the Old Testament; we are living in the New Testament days. May I burst your bubble by letting you know that Jesus Christ consistently referred to the Father’s original plan for marriage? Matthew 19:4-8. How can you then conclude God has nothing to do with it? From all indications, He does. How can you leave God out of the second most important decision you will make in life? For wondering minds, the first is accepting Christ.
Going back to the story of my little gathering – one of my friends who had not been able to get a word in finally had a chance to speak. “And how do you know if he/she is the right one?” She said putting on a full sister-girl attitude, hand on hip, neck stiff and jaw straightened out in annoyance of not been able to decide which of the guy in her life needs to hit the freeway. “… Those who are led by the Spirit of God are the sons of God.” Romans 8:14. The Holy Spirit knows whom God has appointed as your mate and will lead you to that person if you let Him. I say If because sincerely, anyone can marry anybody. I am now talking to those who want to be married to the right person “God’s chosen best for you.” He promises in Isaiah 30:21, “Whenever you turn to the left or the right, your ears will hear a voice behind you saying, ‘This is the way, walk ye in it.”
First, you have to commit your ways to Him and secondly, you have to be sensitive to His leading. Most people have been praying and fasting earnestly for a partner and do not know when their blessing comes even if it hits them on the face with a stupid stick. Be sensitive! There is no time like the present to get it right. That is a word for somebody!