It is very easy to think maybe God has forgotten your case, are you one of those people thinking “God where is that dashing guy You promised me? How about the beautiful lady that can hit more than an octave high in the choir You spoke to me about? Why haven’t I seen the manifestations? Is this year going to pass by again without the fulfilment of Your promises? God is it?”
Can we put a lid on those thoughts for a second please? While you are deliberating in your hearts, murmuring with your mouth and trying to comprehend using carnal computations on why these promises aren’t fulfilled yet, has it for one tiny second flown through your mind that it’s really not about you?
I will take you into facets of why you are still waiting to exhale but first let’s look at the story of Hannah. The bible records in the book of Samuel that the Lord had shut up Hannah’s womb. “But why would God do that?” because Hannah had not realised it was not really about her. God had a plan for that child she wanted so badly. She had no idea she was carrying a prophet in her womb.
“Verily, Verily, I say unto you. Except a corn of wheat fall into the ground and die, it abideth alone: but if it die, it bringeth forth much fruit.” John 12:24
Oh my! It took Hannah a while to realise that her thoughts ((seed) – a seed is not necessarily money sown) had to die to her purpose to fulfil God’s purpose. When that revelation hit her, the bible says, “She vowed saying, O Lord of hosts, if You will indeed look on the affliction of Your handmaid and [earnestly] remember, and not forget Your handmaid but will give me a son, I will give him to the Lord all his life.”
I’m sure God was like “Why did it take you so long to realise it was not all about you?” “Hannah became pregnant and in due time bore a son and named him Samuel [heard of God]. Because she said, I have asked him of the Lord.” God has a plan for your marriage and there are some things in you that needs to die before His purpose can be accomplished. For some it may be anger, attitude problem, pride and arrogance for others it may be impatience, unnecessary ego, envy, bad mouthing etc. Search yourself and deal with your own stuff.
Have you actually sat down to check areas in your life that needs working on? God knows that attitude problem in you needs to go before He can hook you up with that lady else it will be a match made in hell. Do not be fooled sista girl into thinking because God said it, it will happen without you having to play your part. Deal with that pride!
“When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.” James 4:3
You may be waiting on God but God is also waiting for you to start asking things for the right reasons. Sincerely, look deep within you and ask why you really want that guy or that lady? Is it for your own selfish motives? If that is your intention then you had better renew your mind.
Back to the story of Hannah – Elkanah had two wives: Hannah and Peninnah. The bible records, because the Lord had given Hannah no children, it embarrassed and grieved her. Her rival, Peniannah who had children of her own provoked Hannah greatly to vex her because the Lord had left her childless. So year after year; whenever Hannah went up to the Lord’s house, Peninnah would provoke her until the point of tears and she would deliberately starve herself.
I can imagine the sort of prayers Hannah used to pray prior to the realisation that it wasn’t about her. “My lord, see how puffy my eyes are and see how many stones I have lost due to Peniannah’s teases because of my childlessness. Give me a child so I can show her.”
You see, Hannah had a promise as well that “None shall be barren” but she had to tie her desires to God’s purpose for her life and that of the unborn child before God could release her harvest.
It may not even be about marriage alone and some may be asking, “Well I know its all about Him, I have dealt with my issues and I’m asking for the right reasons. Why haven’t I seen my promises yet?” My dear, it is yet for an appointed time, be rest assured that it will happen in the fullness of His time. Worship Him, rely on His faithfulness, get busy with purpose and most importantly exhale!